We have a zero tolerance policy toward bullying, and we will call it out when we see it. Our Board of Directors won't do it, so we will. Judge for yourselves.
October 18, 2020:
Bullies Added: Debbie Berenholtz and Robin Day Schmierer
Bullying Behavior: False, defamatory, and mean posts on Cascade Lakes HOA Message Board.
Debbie Berenholtz publicly posted a message on the HOA's message board concerning our News Site report on the fence voted on by the Board; a portion of said fence runs parallel to the rear perimeter of Board member Harvey Ginsberg's property (see our October 7, 2020 Synopsis and Commentary, entitled "Three Dog Night," for the full report).
In Debbie's post, she falsely stated that this New Site "falsely accuses different residents each and every month.” This is libel per se. We sent her a "cease and desist" letter with a demand for a retraction and we cc'ed the entire Board of Directors.
In her post, she also demeaned and insulted most of the residents in this community by suggesting and implying that they were easily "brainwashed" by our "evil" News Site. That is what she thinks of all of you.
In addition to sending Debbie a cease and desist letter, your Roving Reporter also responded on the HOA's message board as follows (Debbie Berenholtz is the first resident and Robin Day Schmierer is the second resident):
"Normally we avoid the HOA message board. However, accusing us of publishing false information is defamatory on its face. Stating falsely that our News Site “falsely accuses different residents each and every month” is libel per se.
This resident will receive a cease and desist letter. For the record, there has never been one instance when anything written on our News Site has ever been successfully challenged for its veracity by anyone.
Referring to us and our News Site as an evil brainwashing enterprise is an example of bullying behavior. Apparently, however, this resident was not too worried about our supposed “evil” “brainwashing” ways when she had us seated next to her mother at prior events, while she sat elsewhere, and we are apparently not too evil to help her mother when no one else would, when her mother needed assistance. And for the record, her mother is lovely.
This resident just a couple of months ago offered to do our grocery shopping when she found out that we are the 24/7 caretakers for my wife’s two parents who are now residing with us (and today is their 67th Anniversary). Is her grocery shopping offer still good? It seemed genuine when she wrote it. And then one Friday night she had a visit from Diane Green, the former disgraced pickleball club president and former entertainment chairperson who resigned in lieu of being terminated by the Board, and whose Subaru was seen in this resident’s driveway on that fateful evening.
The last contact I had with her was about a month and a half ago, after Diane Green’s visit to this resident. I was outside working on my front landscaping and I said hello to this resident a couple of times as she was walking by with her dogs and another person, and instead of greeting me back, she started laughing and stated, “I thought you were a Mexican” and just kept on walking and laughing.
A second resident then chimed in on the message board thread, “I agree with Debbie- personal attacks should have no place on this message board...” Apparently, this resident is fine with the first resident’s personal attack on the two residents who run the News Site. So, the objection to alleged personal attacks is selectively targeted: some are ok, and some are not ok, depending on who is being targeted. This is also classic bullying behavior.
As of this posting, a third resident inserted himself into the fray by stating, “Brava Debbie!” This is called a pile on, and it is how bully mobs start and operate.
And by the way, in an ironic twist worthy of O’Henry, the first resident’s ARB request and subsequent Board appeal for an invisible fence around her property for her dogs, Bella and Penny, which she was willing to pay for herself, was denied in full, but she apparently is OK with allegedly paying for a board member’s physical fence allegedly for his canine menagerie.
And finally, the second resident was part of the rigged pickleball election scheme, and the first resident was appointed by the fake officers to a fake position as membership chairperson of that club (and even had business cards created for this fake position with at least one typo). The News Site exposed the fraud and the officers resigned. So, it is very clear to us where this venom is coming from. By contrast, we report the honest facts; each person who reads them is free to draw their own conclusions."
July 17, 2020:
Roberta Alter is at it again. Once again Roberta Alter has seen fit to attack your Editor and Roving Reporter for truthful reporting on irregularities and rule-breaking engaged in by those in leadership positions within the community. Roberta Alter has done so without provocation in a classic example of projection. Her first attack was on June 30, 2020 and we called it out below on July 1, 2020 (see her post and our response below). On July 16, 2020, Roberta Alter posted a follow-up to her previous defamatory post of June 30, 2020, wherein she doubled down on, and in fact increased, her attacks on us.
Virtually every sentence in this latest baseless vilification is projection: what she accuses us of doing, she is actually doing to us. Also note that she has never produced one iota of evidence or proof in support of her continual baseless, false, and defamatory attacks on us. For the record, neither your Editor nor your Roving Reporter has ever said a negative statement about Roberta Alter except in response to her publication of these vile writings against us.
Roberta Alter states that her first post was an “antibullying message” when in fact it was the exact opposite, with her as the bully and your Editor and Roving Reporter as the targets. She states that she did not mention our names to “protect” us but, according to her latest post, “…there is no secret any more who these people are.” Make no mistake, there was never a secret about whom she was referring and there was never any protection of us going on; there was the exact opposite. This is classic manipulation; the reverse is in fact true and her posts speak for themselves.
Ask yourselves: since she initiated both posts, what exactly was the purpose for doing so and how is that for our protection as she claims? In fact, it is actually against the protection of the community for her to continually try to demonize the reporters who are trying to expose the corruption (abuse of power) and eliminate the malfeasance by those in leadership positions within the community.
Another comment before we get to the actual evidence: the only one posting on the HOA message board in this context among the parties is Roberta Alter. For the record, it is a fact that neither your Editor nor your Roving Reporter has posted one single post on any topic on the HOA message board for months and we have never mentioned or referred to Roberta Alter prior to her written attacks as described herein.
These are unprovoked and systematic attacks by Roberta Alter who clearly does not want the truth to be known about some of the irregularities that have been going on at Cascade Lakes by those in positions of power. In her first post, she stated that she takes personal offense at our criticism; our criticism is in fact truthful reporting on these irregularities, not one instance of which has ever been challenged for its veracity.
She is also angry that we called out individuals who rigged the pickleball club elections and who subsequently stepped down, i.e., resigned, over the rigged election process and other activities that they were engaging in. Roberta Alter apparently has no problem with people breaking the rules but has a big problem with calling out those rule-breakers. So now who exactly is the bully here, who is she actually trying to protect, and why?
The Board refuses to take down her posts. Roberta’s latest post went up hours after the Board meeting wherein Marion Weil, the President of the Board, HOA webmistress, and liaison to the message board, mentioned and distinguished other Cascade Lakes sites in her opening remarks in a manner that was clearly aimed at discrediting them, including the Cascade Lakes Facebook page and this News Site. Marion Weil apparently has complete control over the flow of information on the HOA message board. The timing of Roberta Alter’s post appears to coincide with those remarks which were made only hours before. This is a very cozy and symbiotic relationship: she protects the Board and the Board protects her. She is, in this context, a proxy for the Board.
Roberta Alter has been sent a formal Cease and Desist letter by your Editor and your Roving Reporter. Here is Roberta’s second post, her post of July 16, 2020, and in attempt to further mitigate the damages Roberta Alter has caused us by her baseless defamation, we follow it with our letter to her and the Board of Directors:
July 1, 2020:
We have three new additions to our Calling Out Bullies page: Diane Green, a repeat offender, who is named again based on our thorough investigative report contained in our June 24, 2020 synopsis and commentary, Roberta Alter, who rarely misses an opportunity to trash your Editor and your Roving Reporter, and Gail Nobel, who lives across the street from Diane Green. Both Roberta Alter and Gail Nobel have commented viciously about us on the Cascade Lakes HOA website’s message board (see below) concerning our factual June 24, 2020 synopsis and commentary.
Roberta Alter admitted to opting out of our email subscription because presumably she had no interest in our reports, but nevertheless gobbled up our June 24, 2020 synopsis and commentary after it was forwarded to her. She apparently read it voraciously through and through, which is odd coming from someone who claims to have no interest in our writings and who misclassifies and dismisses actual facts and chronology, along with documented proof, as a collective “diatribe,” using her word, which is actually what she has engaged in, a diatribe of self-righteous indignation without any supporting facts.
Roberta Alter also complained that she does not like that we criticize the Board and that she takes “personal offense” at that. Yet she is 100% silent to all the criticism of the Board on the Cascade Lakes Facebook Page, of which we have not participated at all, and of which Diane Green specifically led the brigade, and instead comes to Diane’s defense, and reserves her rage solely for us. Aside from the obvious and blinding hypocrisy, this is a good example of targeted, unbridled, discriminatory hostility toward your Editor and Roving Reporter, which is a classic description of a bully.
Roberta is fine as long as the criticism of the Board comes from Diane Green and those who support Diane Green. Diane Green’s Facebook posts, which we highlighted in the synopsis and commentary, and which viciously attack the Board, speak for themselves, and Diane Green’s threatening letter to the Board also speaks for itself. Yet Roberta’s rage is reserved only for your Editor and Roving Reporter, the two individuals who are exposing the corruption (abuse of power) in leadership. Roberta herself has commented on that Facebook page, so it is clear that she reads it, and yet is totally mum about all of that vitriol and criticism of which we have never participated.
Gail Nobel admitted to not having read the June 24, 2020 synopsis and commentary but determined that it was disgusting, nonetheless. Query how one can legitimately comment on anything they have admitted to not having read, but that’s a different issue; that’s just blind allegiance while possessing no supporting facts or any facts to contradict the actual facts that were put forth. Again, using the word “disgusting” to describe something she admittedly has never read actually describes her conduct.
These two bullies, along with the main bully, Diane Green, use the classic psychological technique called “projection,” where they attribute to the target conduct that they themselves engage in. Projection is formally defined thusly:
Psychological projection is a defense mechanism in which the human ego defends itself against unconscious impulses or qualities (both positive and negative) by denying their existence in themselves while attributing them to others: Sigmund Freud, Case Histories II (PFL 9) p. 132. For example, a bully may project their own feelings of vulnerability onto the target. It incorporates blame shifting and can manifest as shame dumping: Hotchkiss, Sandy; foreword by Masterson, James F., Why Is It Always About You?: The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism (Free Press, 2003).
In simple terms, whatever the bully is doing to the target, she falsely claims that the target is doing to her and she is the poor victim.
This is the exact behavior we called out on the part of Diane Green in our June 24, 2020 synopsis and commentary, and we backed it up with facts and evidence, and we documented in chronological order various events that occurred and statements that were made by this premier bully, who started her campaign of character assassination when she could not secure our blind allegiance and when we instead called out her manipulative and destructive behavior.
In response to our well-documented exposé on this bully, some residents immediately took the opportunity to jump on the bandwagon, as dutiful flying monkeys (a Wizard of Oz reference which is also recognized in the psychology world about those who buy into the bully’s false claims and bad acts and pile on so that they can be on the team). These people allow the main bully to engage in additional abuse by proxy toward the target.
As can be seen by the posts on the official Cascade Lakes Message Board, Roberta Alter uses this technique brilliantly when she accuses the bullied of being the bullies. Gail Nobel gets on the mob bandwagon by calling our writing disgusting, while admitting she never read what was written. The Board of Directors finds nothing wrong with keeping these posts live on the official Cascade Lakes website, while previously having no compunction in removing factual posts from your Editor concerning their own conduct, and also concerning the coronavirus.
We stand by our entire synopsis and commentary because it is 100% factual, and we will continue to call out the bullies. Not one of our facts has ever been challenged by anyone and this is because all of it is true. What bullies such as Diane Green do is blame shifting to the target, and these bullies are adept at falsely creating their own victimhood using their false narratives against the target. A great example is Gail Nobel, who declared with 100% certainty that the news report was “disgusting” while admitting to never having read one word of it.
The great news is that most of the wonderful residents here in Cascade Lakes do not buy into this toxic behavior, and it is concentrated in a relatively small number of loud and vocal individuals in and around the community.
All of this toxic behavior is consistent with textbook descriptions and is therefore extremely predictable. Many of the psychology articles on the topic are in unison about the fact that one of a bully’s main weapons in his or her arsenal is the typical silence by those whom they bully, because speaking out predictably produces more rage and more bullying, and generally the bullied target just wants it to stop. We will not give them that potent tool of the trade. The professional articles we have read also state that calling them out is the best antidote and is the best way to neutralize this toxic behavior.
[Editor's note: The other individual whose post is sandwiched between the two bullies' posts is not being called out here and was in fact never called out. Per her emails to us, she states that she specifically was not referring to your Editor, your Roving Reporter, or this News Site, and indeed, we have never called her out. We believe she was unfairly manipulated by the title of Bully Roberta Alter's post, "Bullying at Cascade Lakes," and was responding generally. By all accounts, including our own, Helene is a wonderful, gentle, kind, and good neighbor who wants the best for this community.]
Once again, we have grammatically tortured drivel posted on the Cascade Lakes Message Board by Chick Coletta. This is the first time the Board removed the post immediately after your roving reporter, Arthur Andelson, contacted them.
However, the only reason it was posted to begin with was because, while the Board suspended your Editor from the message board for thirty days for truthful posts calling them out for repeatedly breaking the rules, they consistently allowed this resident to post attacks on your Editor and her husband, your roving reporter, as amply evidenced on this page below.
In fact, ironically, their first discipline of your Editor occurred when she called them out for having illegal non-public board meetings, which is exactly what we posted here on this news site about the upcoming March 18th closed board meeting, and the exact post about which Chick posted his comments on the Cascade Lakes Message Board.
There are signs posted on Cascade Lakes Blvd. that there is a board meeting on March 18th, but the community is locked out of the meeting. One of the webmasters of the Cascade Lakes Message Board, Michael Blackman, on the very thread where Chick posted his comments stated: “Patricia, the meeting will not be an open meeting…”
Many residents receive message board posts via email through their automatic email subscriptions; thus, they have a permanent record of this false, defamatory, and ignorant post by Chick Coletta.
We could not help but notice that the only way for Chick to have been able to post the comments he made on the Cascade Lakes Message Board was by reading our comments on our news site, since we did not post them on the Cascade Lakes Message Board. We always appreciate our ever-growing group of readers, and we welcome his continued viewership of this news site.
Aside from consistently assaulting the English language, Chick Coletta also personally threatened your roving reporter (“you don’t want to make an enemy of me” were his exact words). Arthur hopes never to have to defend himself against this threat, but if necessary, his advanced combat training should come in handy.
Your Editor makes one final comment below; for context, Chick's post in all its imbecilic glory is reproduced for ease of reference here:
"I can't believe you would make a comment like that. "The board meeting must be open so it must be postponed." Wake up.
it is going to be open. Duhhhhhhh
its on closed circuit TV.
Have you heard of the Coronavirus lately
in case you're so consumed with always going against what this community is doing. Or better yet are you just trying to impress some of us in letting us believe that you know more than everyone at CL
Well in case you don't know what the world is doing right now, listen up, everyone in every country is putting everything on hold for the safety of the public...Everyone but you.
Yes you want a live meeting. Well hear This "It's not going to happening." We care about the safety of the people here, and in this situation rules and laws are meant to be broken. so put your tail between your legs and watch it on TV. The only reason you and your wife are so upset is because you can't get up on the floor and go against the dignity of the board on must issues, like you do at every meeting.
Please take a break and enjoy your life at CL. You have a handful of followers on your site. Please don't Alienate yourself from them as well
i rest my case"
Final comment: your Editor owns the trademark to the phrase I Rest My Case but I do appreciate the shout-out. Branding is a wonderful thing.
Why so much meanness and hate from this individual? Further, as to why our Board of Directors continues to condone this ugly behavior, and by continuing to allow these multiple hateful and mean posts, actually promotes this mean and hateful behavior, please see the Residents' Input Page- Message Board: HOA under this date for copies of your editor's emails to the Board regarding this matter.
Here is what Chick Coletta posted during the wee hours of the morning:
"I'd like to know why when I open up the message board the 1st and sometimes the 2nd message wants me to click on another site that has nothing to do with our original site. Do we need this secondary non official childish site. I mean come on !!!!! Person of the Month award
Bully of the month award
Guess the lucky clue and win $10
next it will be win a date and feel young again
or guess who we are and why we are doing this and win a free brain scan i feel like another site is like a broken pencil...... POINTLESS I don't understand it.
it's beyond me. I think it's an insult to our community people and it should NOT be allowed to be on our site."
January 28, 2020:
We posted our notice that the February Resident of the Month Award winner was chosen and invited all to try and guess who it is from our first clue. Chick replied late last night to our message stating that he was
"not interested in playing such a childish game"
thus denigrating the residents who are participating and thrilled to be considered, as well as the wonderful winners, who are his neighbors in our community. He then attacked your editor by stating:
"why don't you do some more constructive.?" [sic]
We take that to mean, 'why don't you do something more constructive.' He then continued on:
"I dropped out of kindergarten because of Recess because I wouldn't play stupid games"
He sure does seem obsessed with this one, though.
Because he disrespects and disparages other residents and your editor with this post, we are including this latest post in our Hall of Meanness.
January 24, 2020:
Why are there bullies in this community and what is their end game?
It has come to our attention that at least one resident has been bullied for a perceived support of your editor and her husband.
This resident, in fact, does not support us, or the manner in which we convey our comments, as the resident conveyed to me, and we appreciate this resident’s honesty.
This resident did, however, agree with the content of what we stated on a particular occasion. For this, the resident was erroneously perceived as supporting us and was bullied for this alleged support.
My response to this resident was, in the words of Shakespeare, "to thine own self be true."
Apparently, any perceived agreement with or support of your editor or her husband results in a shaming, shunning, and excommunication process by a small, vocal group of residents who are neither Quakers nor Friends.
To the bullied: why give these mean people so much influence over you and your opinions? Your opinions are important. That you would be devalued by these bullies is a reflection on their character, not yours. You can only be intimidated into silence if you allow it.
January 23, 2020:
Today we have three examples of writings earning a berth in our Hall of Meanness.
The first post by Chick Coletta makes fun of our Resident of the Month contest:
"I Nominate Harry Belafonte
He should win because there is usually only one voter who elects the winner"
Chick Coletta Mean Post #1
In the second post we have Barry Hymowitz jumping on the mean bandwagon, also insulting the Resident of the Month contest and denigrating the fact that we opened up the contest to nominations from all residents of our wonderful community.
"I nominate CHICK for the best reply to a silly question"
Barry Hymowitz Jumps On The Mean Bandwagon
The third post is from Chick, who does have some kind words to say about others, and he is correct that Jeff and Diane Green work very hard for this community, but he cannot resist saying the following:
"...I don't see anyone else stepping up to the plate.
maybe we don't want other certain people to step up...
Most people are so happy you and Diane are putting so much time into community
well, maybe a couple are unhappy
cause no on can please them.
just a reminder
You And Diane are very well liked by just about anyone. Unlike a few others who think they are our knight in shining armor
that many can't stomach."
For these reasons, both Chick and Barry are posted on our Calling Out Bullies page.
Chick Coletta Mean Post #2
January 10, 2020:
This individual has no regard for the health and safety of the people in our community.
The Pickleball Party was an awesome event that a lot of people worked incredibly hard to put on.
There were a lot of people and there was a lot of great food.
Arthur made Whiskey Wieners, as the photo shows.
We put Arthur's name on the sign in case anyone wanted to ask him what other ingredients were contained in the food.
We did this for the protection of our neighbors.
This dish contained alcohol, as the sign warns.
There are many people with many dietary restrictions.
Our label was for their protection.
Our label was a disclosure that the food contained alcohol.
This is especially important for those individuals for whom maintaining sobriety is sacred.
The individual who ripped up the disclosure sign and destroyed this food card showed no regard for his or her neighbors.
For this reason, he/she has earned a berth in our Hall of Meanness and we are calling him/her out here on the Calling Out Bullies page.
Arthur's Whiskey Wieners
Disclosure Sign Torn Up
Disclosure Sign Torn Up
January 8, 2020 BOD Meeting:
First Residents' Input Session:
Chick Coletta, who repeatedly bashes us [and others] at various opportunities (message board, for which his posts remain up, pickleball court, board meeting) got up and called for your webmistress and her husband, Arthur, to move away from Cascade Lakes. He was allowed to speak about matters not on the Agenda, which is normally verboten at the First Residents’ Input Session. Nevertheless, the Board allowed him to continue to speak off topic. Here is some of what he said according to the tape about your webmistress and her husband, Arthur: “Just move outa here, go back to where you came from.” [Lots of loud applause.] He continued, “And that fact – I don’t know if you’ve noticed Facebook, lately but everybody has unfriended these people, nobody wants to be their friend, nobody’s talkin’ to them, they’re slightin’ them on the tennis courts – not the tennis courts, the pickleball courts, and it’s a shame…on their website I was told I was named bully of the month [laughter from the audience] because I went against a few of those things.” He then went on about the Resident of the Month Award and complained that Arthur won (for December) and then stated, “I think there’s a lot to be looked into here and I would really appreciate it if some of these people moved away, it would do us all a favor.” [more laughter from the audience.]
Let’s parse his comments and show the complete and utter falsity and/or hypocrisy of his rant:
We are not moving anywhere.
Everyone has not unfriended us on Facebook; we have many friends here that are friends of ours on Facebook, including Chick’s immediate family. This includes Chick’s own wife, Carmen, who is a very sweet person, and quite an impressive pickleball player, and Carmine Coletta, whom we believe is Chick’s father. We have screenshots of these Facebook friends on our Facebook page as of the writing of this post for anyone who is curious. The only one in that family who unfriended us was Chick.
A lot of people want to be our friends and are our friends; we see and greet each other every single day.
The only person who slighted anyone on the Pickleball courts to our knowledge was Diane Fiorillo-Green, the new President of the Pickleball Club, who set a poor leadership example by refusing to play with Arthur when their turns came up, and then usurping his place in line for next in play on the next available court thereafter. In fact, this past Saturday, January 4, 2020, Chick and Arthur played together as a two-man team, and Chick was asking Arthur for pointers since Arthur is currently the #1 player on the ladder.
Contrary to his claim, Chick was not named bully of the month. There is no such award. We call out bullies as we see them because we have a zero-tolerance policy for bullies. He is listed multiple times for repeatedly earning a berth in our Hall of Meanness, but we would never give an award for such a distinction and it is nothing to be proud of, notwithstanding the crowd’s laughter and applause.
The current Resident of the Month is Howard Greene, MD, who is happy and honored to be recognized. Chick is apparently fixated on Arthur, who won in December, which is so last year.
Chick thinks “there’s a lot to be looked into here.” We agree, so keep checking this website for updates!
January 7, 2020:
Pickleball this evening: Is this leadership?
Four players play at a time. There are more players than courts available, so paddles are placed in holders and then moved up one by one in groups of fours as courts become available. Next paddles in line play each other. Four paddles came up and three of the four members went on the court to play. The fourth person, the new President of the Pickleball Club, Diane Fiorillo-Green, saw one of the members in this group and shouted, “no way am I playing on this court” and walked off. She refused to play with one of the fully paid club members. Another member took her place.
Shortly thereafter, after all parties had played and the paddles were queued up again, her paddle was behind this same member's paddle because her game ended after his. Nevertheless, she displaced this same member’s paddle in line in the paddle holders and jumped ahead of him so she could play with the other three up for play. She actually picked up this member’s paddle from its holder and moved it back and cut in line in front of him to play before her turn.
Now this may seem petty to some of you, but this is the behavior of the new President of the Pickleball Club against a fully paid member of the club based on a personal vendetta of her own making. So, we have to ask: is this leadership?
January 6, 2020:
This post attacks residents by referencing them and then warning others that there are two kinds of people in the world, ones you can count on and ones that don't count, clearly attacking and demeaning the two residents in question by stating:
There are two kinds of people in this world, ones you can count on, and ones that don't count."
January 5, 2020:
This post attacks a resident, whom he identifies, by saying to her:
"Dear Mrs F...
I never had a problem with you
you were the problem"
January 4, 2020:
This post attacks residents as being morons and dummies if they believe in the Resident of the Month Award posted on this site. Specifically, this post states:
"if you are a Moran or a dummy and believe it then it will count" [sic]
and also states:
"sometimes people need to use their heads besides something to keep their ears apart"
December 30, 2019:
This post attacks a resident by demeaning the way she honors husband and by suggesting that his wife give him an award for:
"maybe for having the biggest movement in the morning"
and then after suggesting all kinds of awards his wife should give him, added a threat at the end:
"you better look close at anyone who continues to put feathers in their cap"